Why is it that women can have strong emotions for a guy, who we truly know and believe doesn't deserve our attention, much less our affection.

I've read the relationship books, which seem to be mostly written by men, and it seems like very clear common sense when they tell women that if a man isn't meeting her requirement and standards, then he's not worth her time and therefore she should move on. The problem with this is that they don't tell you how to cut the emotional ties that every woman develops when attached to another person, especially if she's been intimate (physical or not) with that person.

I believe that every woman knows deep down what her ideal man should be, but we are capable of loving almost anything. God created us to love deeply. Our strength lies in our ability to do that no matter the obstacles that get in our way. We can make a house a home, hold a family together, love a disrespectful child that we probably didn't even bare, nurture an abusive husband, and forgive the deepest hurt or betrayals. That's a woman's love. Nothing but God's love avails this love. So for someone to tell us to leave alone someone we've created that bond of love with, is asking for a lot more than ignoring a few phone calls and text messages. A woman has to learn to sever the emotions, even if she's beyond the stage of admitting he's no good for her.