One of the biggest issues that needs to be addressed between our men and women, and one of my pet peeves when discussing these issues, is the blame game. If we're ever going to heal the state of relationships, then we have to strengthen the bond between our men and our women, and pointing fingers is not going to help. No pun intended, but it's pointless...

It takes both a man and a woman to create the type of relationship that we're addressing. Both sides of this union play an equal part in the strength and health of the relationship. It's like yin and yang. If you search for yin and yang on Wikipedia, it states, "It is impossible to talk about yin or yang without some reference to the opposite, since yin–yang are bound together as parts of a mutual whole. A race with only men or only women would disappear in a single generation; but men and women together create new generations that allow the race they mutually create (and mutually come from) to survive. The interaction of the two gives birth to things." This is why it is important for both our men and our women to come together to build a strong union. Pointing fingers, and blaming one side as opposed to the other is like poking at one side of the circle; eventually the finger points right back at you. If one side of the union is hurting, corrupted, negative, etc., then the other side is as well. Until something positive is done, then this negative spiral continues to plunge our people into a deeper state of trouble. Keep this in mind before you begin to say that it's just the men, or just the women who are causing the problem because that's inaccurate. Both our men and our women need to improve, so that our relationships will improve, and ultimately WE as a people can improve.